Winning A Girlfriend Back - A Simple Tip

Think About WHY It Happened

You know, you would think that most guys would have the sense to do this after a break up that they didn’t want to happen.

A lot of people believe in things like “fate” and “destiny”, that’s fine, however, I wouldn’t advise anyone to just not even think about events and happenings in their lives because it’s supposedly “fate”.

Here’s a simple exercise you can do:

Sit down, with a pen and piece of paper, and just think about WHY the break up happened. Think about things like was it a specific event, was there problems in the relationship before, was it for a reason out for your control, basically just brainstorm and write down everything you think might be related to WHY you broke up.

The reason for this is very simple, if you better understand WHY the break up happened, you can then use that information to work on improving things and solving certain problems.

Let me give you an example, let’s say that you have narrowed the reason down to the fact that your ex girlfriend thought you were lazy and that you should get a job (just an example situation) and was sick of her working to keep things running smoothly.

What would be the most obvious way to show your ex that things are different and that you are now motivated, hard working and not the lazy guy you were then?

Simple, you get a job.

If she broke up with you because you were sitting around at home watching T.V. all day and being lazy, while she was out working hard each day, then getting a job will show her that something has changed for the better.

This is just an example and a very simple one at that, however, the idea is pretty clear, if you know what the problems were and why you broke up, then you can work on solving those problems and making things better.

Of course, in your situation, things mat be quite a bit more complicated than just getting a job, however, if you understand the point then you can apply this is many things.

Note - In the example I gave about getting a job, it doesn’t mean that you then go and tell her that you’ve got a job and everything has changed as though it was some sort of magical fix for everything.

Let her notice and realise that you have a job and that you are making changes in your life for the better.

The exercise of thinking about why a break up happened can actually be a very eye-opening experience, you may realise some things about yourself and the way you live that you don’t like, you may decide to make big changes in your life and your personality.